Should You Try Online Dating? Sarah Says Yes

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Who is kidding who?

We can be anyone we want to be and do anything that we hope to in this life.

Can money buy anything? It can buy a lot of things. Anything you want in a material way. But not everything.

It certainly can’t buy you love. We know that.

It can buy an imitation of love. But not real love.

So why are so many people investing so much money looking for it? Especially in the dating world.

You could look to film for some ideas but as often the case, they sensationalize the subject and focus on the extreme. So many films fall into two categories.

They are either about a serial killer or a comedy. Often neither film is remotely funny.

Has your dating experience ever brought you in contact with a serial killer? A comedian? No, not that one. One that is actually funny.

No, dating is a very serious matter. And a challenging one.

That was emphasized to us watching the television investment series Shark Tank.

Here is an excerpt from their post at, “Three Day Rule is a new, exclusive online dating site that entrepreneur Val Brennen pitches in Shark Tank episode 424. Brennen wanted to create a dating experience that transcends the “game playing” most online dating platforms encourage.

Current statistics indicate 20 percent of people in a new, committed relationship met on a dating site and Three Day Rule thinks its methods are better than the rest. Three Day Rule is invitation only and members must pass a screening process to be accepted into the program. The goal is to create an “exceptional pool of hand-picked singles, rather than a shopping cart of complete strangers.”

Well that sounds good in theory. Based upon the experiences of someone who tried their product and wrote a review, we wondered how things get started.

The risk takers at commented, “According to their website, TDR offers three-month and six-month matchmaking packages, costing $5,000 and $7,500 respectively. The six-month is the most popular, and it comes with at least six vetted matches, post-date feedback sessions, date coaching, and more, while the three-month guarantees only three matches and includes fewer features.”

Wow. Ain’t love grand?

Seven grand?

Love certainly isn’t cheap.

According to, “Matchmaking and online dating has become big business, with dating services estimated to be worth $2.5 billion in 2015 and forecast to grow 5.1% per year to $3.2 billion by 2020.”

We knew it had grown but not by that much. That is surprising and revealing.

The financial news and information source educates, “Today, nearly all major dating apps are owned by the Match Group, a publicly-traded pure play that was spun out of IAC, a conglomerate controlled by media mogul Barry Diller.

In addition to its prized app Tinder – which doubled its revenue in 2018 to $805 million – Match Group owns popular online dating services like OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, Hinge, and has even bought out international competitors like Meetic in Europe, and Eureka in Japan. The dating giant reported revenues of $1.73 billion in 2018.”

So are you part of the dating statistics?

If a person is looking for a serious relationship, where once you could seek suitable partners through family and village relationships, those days are apparently long gone.

Visual Capitalist adds that the number of couples meeting online has more than doubled in the last decade to about 1-in-5.

If you are in the market for a new long-term relationship, but feel a little queasy about giving a try, remember, no risk, no reward.

We have a visiting female writer with some ideas on why you should give it a try and much of what she says makes sense.

Her name is Sarah P. Benson.

Sarah would like to describe herself to you. “I am a keen amateur student of relationships. I write about why relationships break up, and about what works to keep them together. I have always been interested in the dynamics of relationships, and like to use what I have learned through reading, study and experience to help others who are having problems.

I think a genuine curiosity and interest in relationships can produce insights that are useful not only to myself, but to others who share the same problems and experience. In the end, we are all amateurs when it comes to love, and we can all benefit from what we have learned in the rough and tumble of life by sharing our knowledge with others.”

Very nice. Sounds good.

Here are her suggestions on why you should jump into the dating pool. We hope the water is warm.

Should I Try Online Dating? 10 Great Reasons to Give It a Go

By Sarah P Benson  

Should I try online dating? Where can I find great online dating advice??

If you have been thinking of trying online dating, but you can’t quite get up the nerve to do so; perhaps you should just jump straight in and try it.

There are lots of people – busy people, shy people, people in rural areas – who have good reasons why they don’t find it easy to meet new people; and if you too want to grow your acquaintance, online dating may be the answer.

It’s a way of expanding your social circle without having to brave the bar and club scene. And if you’ve been asking yourself ‘Should I try online dating?’ but you’ve always found excuses up to now that prevented you from trying it out; well, maybe your reasons are not as valid as you think.

It’s not safe

Think about that rationally. Why should it be any less safe than a blind date or meeting someone randomly in a bar? You can spend plenty of time chatting online before you decide to meet them, so you will have learnt lots about them before you ever do meet. You can also keep your personal information private until you feel comfortable revealing it and agreeing to set up a date.

I already meet lots of people

Even if that’s true, online dating can only add to it. It doesn’t mean you have to stop looking for love among the people you meet in your daily life; and even if you do have your eye on a few possible dates, there’s no guarantee that any of them will turn out to be Mr. Right. Think of online dating as just another way to increase your chances of finding The One.

I’m too busy to date right now

You may be too busy to trawl bars or go to nightclubs, but everyone can find time to use the internet – and to meet someone they think is worth their time. If your life is really full, then online dating is a very efficient use of your precious time which could produce a very positive result. Commuting time, your lunch break and a few quiet minutes in the evening are all opportunities for browsing online profiles, and you can exchange messages from your smartphone at any time.

I’m not ready to start dating

Then try signing up to some social groups first, and get a feel for what it’s like to meet people online. Remember that you can have as much or as little to do with these people as you want, so you can take things at a pace you feel comfortable with. There are plenty of social sites and forums which are aimed at friendship and shared interests rather than dating. You can make some new friends, have some fun and be ready to jump into online dating with confidence when you feel ready.

It’s too expensive

Many sites allow you to sign up and browse for free, although usually you have to pay to create your own profile or respond to profiles you like. But most charges are quite reasonable, although some very specialist or exclusive sites may charge a premium. Normally you would find yourself spending less than you would on a night out. And you may find its money far better spent too!

I’d find it difficult to trust someone I met online

Well, are you so sure that could always trust someone you met offline either? However you meet people, there is always the possibility that they will turn out to be duplicitous, irresponsible or flaky. In either case, you should trust what your instinct tells you, and if someone gives you a bad feeling or vibe, avoid them in future.

It’s just for nutters and weirdos

Any reputable dating site is jealous of its reputation, and they have safeguards to weed out people who cause upset or offence to their online community. And in their own interests, most people online are vigilant about reporting inappropriate or suspicious behavior. You shouldn’t feel any less safe than you would in the street.

Only the desperate resort to online dating

Once possibly, but not these days. All sorts of people all over the world are using online dating today, and many of them are just like you. They see it as a safe way to introduce themselves to people they would never otherwise meet, and who might become great friends or even the Love of Their Life. You can find people with similar interests who enjoy the same things you do, and you get to choose the people you want to meet. What’s not to like?

I’m too different/unusual/eccentric to find someone who shares my interests

If you really are a genuine one-off, then the internet is THE place to find someone who shares your originality. Not only can you include your unusual interests in your profile, but there are also dating sites online for all sorts of different cultural, spiritual, intellectual and physical interest groups. And if your niche isn’t yet covered – well, start your own!

I’m too old for online dating

Not today! People of all ages find themselves single these days, and you’re never too old to start again. Even people in their nineties have been motivated to surf the internet and find love online, and if they’re not too old, then neither are you. Life’s too short to pass up one of the best opportunities there is to find a new love.

All these excuses have been around for years, but we’re in the 21st century now and online dating is mainstream. Should I try online dating? If you really do want to increase your chances of finding Mr. Right, then the answer must be Yes. Whatever you reasons for not having met the right man up to now, nobody is too busy to date. So give it a go and see for yourself the opportunities it can provide that will add to your chances of finding Mr. Right.

Once you’ve found a great man online, what are the secrets of having a great relationship?

How do you keep the momentum going and the attraction growing?

Get some ideas from these 7 tips on attracting men and spice up your love life.

They say men aren’t complicated, but they’re not always predictable. And there are some essential things he needs to enter a committed relationship. Find out what they are and how to keep your relationship glowing.

Copyright © 2013 Sarah P Benson All Rights Reserved

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