Telling the truth all of the time seems to be impossible for most. Telling yourself the truth about issues you don’t want to address is even harder.
It’s called denial and it can have severe consequences.
Why should we tell ourselves the truth? We love to procure varied opinions so let’s do that now from a guest writer.
Tell Yourself the Truth – by: Susan Russo
“Three things cannot be long hidden; the sun, the moon, and the truth.” -Buddha
Think of all of the excuses you’ve heard people tell themselves to avoid facing reality. People don’t exercise because they don’t have the time. They drink because they’re stressed. Children are neglected because the parents are too busy to take 5 minutes out of their days to give to them. And abused women win the prize for making up every excuse in the book about why they stay in abusive relationships.
When we deny what we truly want, i.e. a thinner body, a better relationship with whomever, a better job, less stress in our lives and eliminating or limiting negative habits we ultimately pay the penalty of not living a happier more balanced life.
The outcome: our bodies aren’t the way we want, our health suffers, our relationships are not what they could be, our financial situations are a struggle, etc. all because we can’t face reality and tell ourselves the truth.
If you really want to get out of debt, be less stressed, lose weight, if you want to stop smoking, stop fighting, be a more “present” parent or a better person in whatever area you feel needs the help, until you quit making excuses as to why you can’t; you will continue to have what you’ve got.
Admitting that there is an issue or a problem is always the first step in changing anything. Facing reality and getting real with yourself will allow you to have a new perspective on how all of your excuses are keeping you stuck. And sadly, we all make excuses about the things we most need to address.
But, unless you are willing to be totally honest with yourself you won’t change a thing.
Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth…..Marcus Aurelius
Wouldn’t you love to live the life you’ve always wanted? If you begin to tell yourself the truth you will finally be able to do something about it. You can now decide whether or not you like your life the way it is or if you are going to choose a different course.
Look, we all have crutches that make it easier to get through life. But, it’s when these crutches begin to actually cripple us that we stay stuck in what can turn into miserable situations. And the longer we stay stuck the harder it is to change.
Don’t make your excuses start to become your reality. You’ve told yourself these lies for so long that you actually start to believe them. The real reality is we can live any way we want without the excuses.
Life without the excuses: I’m fat because I don’t exercise and I eat what I want. I’m stressed because I let life and all of its complications upset me. I don’t spend enough time nurturing my children because I simply don’t feel like it. I am in debt because I’m wasteful and don’t cut back in the many ways that I can. I drink because I like it regardless of how it makes me feel. I stay in abusive relationships because I don’t know my self-worth or value myself and the list goes on and on.
If you really want to lose weight make the time to work out. If you’re stressed, learn stress management or meditate. If you are struggling financially; create a budget and adhere to it. If you don’t spend enough time with your children, find 5 minutes and give them your undivided attention. If you are in an abusive relationship, stop telling yourself its okay if someone treats you badly.
It’s up to you to either live your life allowing the excuses to make what you do (which you know you shouldn’t) bearable. Or, tell yourself the truth and know that the truth can set you free!
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A view of her site shares that Susan Russo is fast becoming known as the mentor who can transform your life. She is the President and founder of Pinnacle Thought Inc., a company committed to providing inspiration, self-empowerment and the tools and strategies to people around the world that are interested in taking their life to the next level.
She is also the author of There Is Life After What’s-His-Name and The 7 Keys to Unlock the Power Within You. She is also co-author of Success and Happiness-16 Experts Reveal Their Secrets. Susan has touched thousands of people through her work and has the ability to turn negative circumstances into life changing opportunities!
Susan is a woman who truly understands the hardship of how to get over a broken heart because she has lived through all of the emotions, pain, and question that come from the aftermath of a breakup or divorce. Knowing that she wasn’t the only person who has struggled with this pain, Susan found the solution that allowed people to move beyond the pain sooner rather than later. She writes about what she discovered in her book so that she can make a difference in the lives of others and help them navigate their way through ending a relationship.
She has lived the principles in her books and is now focused on communicating them to others through her writing, teaching, and coaching.
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