Young, Completely Gorgeous, Be In Her Life When It Really Matters
fciwomenswrestling.com femcompetititor.com grapplingstars.com, By-Irina-Bg-Shutterstock-photo-credit-Editorial-
August 24, 2022,
When it mattered, it was given to someone else.
When it mattered, she chose someone else.
When it mattered, children in the home, were you ever around? Did you cheat on your spouse?
When it mattered, you made your money and invested well.
Lesson?
For the important things in life, do it when it really matters.
Do it when you’re young. Naïve, but sincere. Do it right now.
Later is too late.
We love sharing personal experiences with you, often challenging, from those in our circle, kind enough to reveal, with the mindset that hopefully you will learn from it without having to experience it yourself.
Hanging around in downtown San Francisco is an experience all in itself. San Francisco is a fantastic place to find coffee shops, restaurants and plazas, to have good food or drink and share experiences.
Linda remembers that when she was young and in love, the boy she had feelings for, was clearly interested in her, but decided to pursue another girl and it devastated her.
Ironically, 20 years later at a high school reunion, he confessed, cried and asked for her forgiveness.
Linda refused. It was way too late. She is married with children and could care less about his need to vent. Now it is about him. When they were young, it was about her and him. At least it should have been.
She refused to listen, was polite, professional even, and walked away.
When it really mattered, when they were young and beautiful, he chose someone else.
That type of knock comes at the door only once. The shadowy figure on the other side of the wood and glass, takes on many forms.
It could be the promotion that you could have be awarded if only you did everything you could to achieve it. It could be an investment in a real estate opportunity when the market was lower but you got cold feet, didn’t invest and the market exploded. Now you want to invest?
It’s too late. When it mattered you didn’t do it.
If you are a parent, spending time with your child while they are in the home is critical.
We know of a real life experience in our circle where a parent had to make a tough choice but years later, felt he made the best one.
We have often chronicled in our articles how one of our associates helped a female tennis player become a champion. Here it is again, in brief.
Mark’s teenage daughter approached him before her senior year in high school to ask him to coach her. For about a decade Mark was one of the top ranked amateur players in the Northern California city that he resided in.
After certain ground rules were established he agreed.
Her previous won lost records as a sophomore and junior were 4-10 and 3-11. She could barely hit 3 balls over the net.
Mark explained to her if, she followed his plan, by the end of the year, she would be ranked in the top 20 of their major daily newspaper.
What was the plan?
THE PLAN
We’ll start by asking you a question.
How do you turn a young tennis player into a winner who has no real weapons?
The plan is to create strengths.
Mark played four years of organized football in high school and was All League in soccer.
If she has no weapons?
We need to create artificial ones.
As Mark learned from his football practices, fatigue is a massive enemy in the 4th quarter.
So he trained her every day for 9 months, with double sessions, just like football, on Saturday and Sunday. The plan was for her to be able to compete for 3 hours in 100 degree weather at game time.
Understandably the plan involved her keeping the ball in play more than three times.
And that was the plan. That’s it.
See what we mean? It’s linear.
The goal has been set. We want to be ranked in the top 20, in a major Nor Cal city by season’s end.
Now it is time for the strategy. It is more involved. Time for the details.
STRATEGY
First, her strength will be something she can control.
Keep the ball in play. Don’t go for big shots which will avoid creating unforced errors. After months of training in the hot sun, her leg muscles were spectacular. She could run for three hours easily.
The second component of the strategy was her opponent’s two most likely biggest weaknesses.
Hitting unforced errors and getting tired from the hot sun.
Now the strategy was to keep her ball in play, run down her opponent’s shots and just gently hit the ball back over the net.
Another element of the strategy was to keep her opponent in the hot sun for at least 45 minutes during the first set. Before you serve, bounce the ball at least three times and not one. During change overs, take your full time allotted. The 100 degree sun is beating down upon your opponent’s head.
Take your time on everything and look at the clock.
Always.
If the first set is over in, say, 25 minutes, even if you won the first set, that’s not good. Your opponent may be fresh for the second set and just used the first set as a warmup.
This may place that in proper perspective.
Every high school team has 6 seeds who play one another. There were 8 teams in the league. When the season began, 48 seeds were marching towards the final four championships.
His player was not one of them.
Not only was she going to have to beat the other teams seeds, she would have to “challenge” the players on her own team, beat them and slowly become a 6th seed, 5 seed, fourth seed etc.
Only the number 1 and 2 seeds of each team play matches that count towards the championship.
On her team, she challenged up and finally landed at the all-important number two spot.
What was the challenge?
Those other players are seeded for a reason.
They can hit that tennis ball big time. Many of them played at private clubs with their families. Many of them had powerful ground strokes and can hit you off those courts.
This is not a new league.
A number of them were champions in summer leagues.
Some of them were ranked USTA Warriors.
Are we painting a picture of what his previous 3-11 player is up against?
She absolutely has to tire them out in the 100 degree heat. Just keep their ball in play. What is their magic number before they make an unforced error? Is it 4? 5?
Figure it out.
Keep the ball in play and they will defeat themselves. If she keeps them out in that hot sun for 45 minutes in the first set, a teenage girl will want to exit early in the second set and start going for big shots.
Unforced errors will be the result.
His strategy worked to perfection.
At one point during the season she won 13 and lost zero.
Yes, 13-0.
The most telling statistic was that all victories were 2 sets to love. No three set knock down drag outs and tie breakers.
She would be voted her team’s Most Valuable Player, led her high school to the playoffs for the first time in the school’s history and earned her way into the leagues final four championships.
Why is this so significant? Again, very true story.
Based upon real events? These are the real events. In detail.
It was significant because Mark was an underachiever at work.
He was finally offered a promotion, but it required him to travel. Simply put, he could take the promotion and be viewed more favorably at work, or he could coach his daughter.
He absolutely cannot do both.
Mark had to ask himself a tough question.
What matters most here?
When it really matters.
He came to a tough conclusion.
His daughter will be 16 and in his home only once. He will never get another chance.
She matters more than a promotion.
Very true story.
Mark made the right decision when it mattered. Later his daughter would graduate from Oxford in England with a Master’s Degree.
Which now brings us to our Female Submission Wrestling and Session Girl Industry.
When is the time to fully support our beautiful Session Girls and fully competitive Female Wrestling Events?
Right now.
In terms of fully competitive female submission wrestling events, we are concerned. Deeply.
There was a time when our industry had myriads of events. We don’t any more.
Antscha’s events in Hungary are currently, the elite.
Monica and Pippa’s events are two of the few left. Support them now. With money. If you can’t attend, buy their videos. Keep them interested.
Right now.
Because it matters now.
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https://www.thesubmissionroom.co.uk/buy-videos/
With our gorgeous Session Girls, simple suggestion.
Do not undercut their rates. They need to make money. When?
Right now, when it matters.
Always remember, these are your future memories.
When an associate’s marriage was on the rocks and he visited beautiful Courtesans in Nevada, when it was time to negotiate, he would find out what their real rate was and pay them more than they asked for. Why?
Once they were unclothed in that private room, he wanted them to be happy.
That was over 15 years ago, he no longer participates in that industry, and now he has wonderful memories that will last him a lifetime.
He did it right, when it really mattered.
Opportunities come and go in life. Try and recognize what they are.
Then do it right. Right now. Later is too late.
Because now, is when it really matters.
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NOTE: Zoe, who, based upon her tattoos, also wrestles under the name Milana, at Female Wrestling Zone, is a gorgeous Session Girl in the Czech Republic. We like to focus on Session Girls who actually wrestle competitively and Milana is a keeper.
If you would like a session, her email is heduinka@gmail.com
