Vitamins When Beneficial

Young or mature it’s in all of our best interests to try and stay as healthy as we can. article, wikimedia photo

Many women turn to vitamin supplements to maintain, enhance or improve their health. While that may be a good idea in general are there certain aspects to this health improvement regime that we should be concerned about?

The informative site reports, “Nearly half of Americans take herbal or dietary supplements daily, and these over-the-counter products are a booming industry. Herbal dietary supplement sales reached $6 billion yearly, based on the most recent estimates by the American Botanical Council.” article, wikimedia photo

The consensus in the article speaks to areas of caution.

1. Vitamin D: Too Much Can Harm Your Kidneys

2. Calcium: The Excess Settles in Your Arteries

3. Fish Oil Supplements: Choose Fish or Flaxseed Instead

4. Kava-Kava: Side Effects Can Harm Your Liver

5. Soy Isolate: Careful With the Estrogen

Another article at reminds, “Half of all American adults—including 70 percent of those age 65 and older—take a multivitamin or another vitamin or mineral supplement regularly. The total price tag exceeds $12 billion per year—money that Johns Hopkins nutrition experts say might be better spent on nutrient-packed foods like fruit, vegetables, whole grains and low-fat dairy products.”


When it comes to your health, it is always wise to do extensive research and not base your decision making upon one expert or one group’s thinking.

We would now like to turn our attention to a guest writer who writes about this important but somewhat subjective subject.


Vitamins To A Healthier You
 by: Linda Polansky

Do we really need to take vitamin supplements to stay healthy? Or can we get enough of the nutrient I need just by eating a balanced diet?

Well, my friend, it isn’t easy. You can ask anyone who hates eating their green leafy vegetables and who balks at the thought of eating broccoli for dinner.

Vitamins, multivitamins and supplements have been proven to provide a vast range of health benefits for your entire body.

A 2002 Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) study supports this claim. This conference, composed of experts from top research universities, experts from government agencies, and health advocacy organizations came to the conclusion that most Americans do not get the optimal level of important nutrients though diet alone. They recommended that multivitamins can well compensate for any gaps so that the necessary amount of nutrients needed by the body are met.

Not only are vitamins an accessible and affordable way to meet dietary requirements, they also provide other cost benefits.

A study entitled “Multi-Vitamins and Public Health” illustrated this. The results of the study indicated that in older adults, a daily regimen of taking vitamin supplements could provide more than $1.6 million in Medicare savings over the next five years. In addition, there are possible savings because of lesser hospitalizations for cancer, infection and heart attack.

Vitamins, Essential Minerals, Anti-oxidants and Herbs article, wikimedia photo

In this day and age, we are faced with pressures brought about by the modern world, in addition to the presence of free radicals. These put our bodies under so much pressure.

Vitamins can help as they ensure that we are ready to face the world and the pressures it brings. There is a wide variety of vitamins and antioxidants that can combat sickness and infection. Vitamin C ensures overall health and immunity. Vitamin E also enhances overall bodily health as well as cardiovascular and immune functions.

Essential Minerals include calcium (for muscle and bone health), magnesium (for healthy nerves and heart) and zinc (which boosts immune functions, cardiovascular, prostate and eye health).

Antioxidants such as coenzyme Q10, selenium and many others serve to defend our bodies from free radicals. Coenzyme Q10 helps in the producing cellular energy as well as ensuring heart and liver health. Selenium shows promise in reducing certain degenerative diseases such as cancer. It also promotes immune functioning. There are so many more that offer amazing health benefits.

Add to this list herbs that possess medicinal qualities. These should also be included in your armada to fight against sickness and free radicals. Chief among the herbs is garlic, which provides cardiovascular, cholesterol and blood pressure support. Ginseng on the other hand, gives energy and enhances endurance. Gingko biloba show promise in enhancing brain and memory function as well as providing support in the circulation of blood to extremities and the brain.

Indeed, there is supplement for almost any health concern.

Those were very nice well thought out expressions.

Let’s conclude with the thinking of a respected online source “Experts say there is definitely a place for vitamin or mineral supplements in our diets, but their primary function is to fill in small nutrient gaps. They are “supplements” intended to add to your diet, not take the place of real food or a healthy meal plan.”

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Linda Polansky writes about, and




Ways To Feel Better

It’s been said that laughter, like deep breathing sends fresh oxygen into our cells and organs, pulls our body and facial muscles, changes our heart rate and blood pressure and increases the release of endorphins while reducing cortisol. Thank goodness for laughter that is free and a healthy sense of humor!

When it comes to feeling better, laughter can be a quick fix but is it a long-term solution? article, Wikimedia photo

Sometimes the problems of life can be very depressing and challenging. In the long-term, what can we do to feel better?

Let’s turn our attention to Mr. Robert Chen, a fantastic Motivational Coach and Speaker who seems to have the right pulse to invigorating the human mind.

How to Feel Better Right Away

We have our up days and unfortunately we have our down days.

What if I told you that you can feel better right away on those down days?

Would you believe me?

I don’t expect you to because we’ve been conditioned to think there are no easy answers in life but I am confident that you’ll be surprised by what you learn by the end of this article.

I know this because I was surprised at how simple it was to feel better.

During my NLP coaching course, one of the most useful insights that I learned was that every behavior and feeling we have exists to help us in some way.

This is easy to understand when we have positive emotions like happiness, joy and love but how does being depressed, frustrated, overwhelmed, angry and all those other negative emotions help us?

Wouldn’t it better if we got rid of those bad emotions?

You would probably feel better in the short-term but it would be extremely dangerous. Getting rid of negative emotions is like removing the fire alarm just because it has an annoying ring (doing what it’s supposed to do) when there is a fire.

The secret is hidden in that analogy.

Your emotions are trying to tell you something and “bad” emotions are merely sending you a message that you need to pay attention. You don’t get rid of the fire alarm to stop the annoying sound, you deal with the fire.

What you need to learn is the message your emotions are telling you and how to use it to find the real danger.

So how do you do that? How do you feel better right away?

Clarify the Feeling

First clarify what you’re actually feeling. If you’re angry, think about the clues that tell you you’re angry. Maybe it’s the furrowed brow or shallow breathing. After you’ve clarified what you’re feeling, acknowledge that your negative emotion carries a message and that what you feel is not based on the experience but how you interpret the experience. Once you identify how you feel and recognize that it is sending you a message, you need to do some more digging.

Understand the Message

Now that you acknowledge there is a message, what is it telling you?

For each emotion, the message is the same. You’re like a house with many different types of alarms, a fire alarm, a carbon monoxide alarm, a radon alarm, etc. They all detect different issues that needs to be handled differently but when one type of alarm rings, it is signaling the same issue.

For example, if you’re angry, the message being sent is that one of your important beliefs or values is being violated by you or someone else. If you’re scared, the message is that a negative consequence is about to occur.

Dig deep to learn more about the message. To help you, I am sharing The Feeling Better Cheat Sheet I created for myself as a reference any time I feel a negative emotion and want to feel better. It reminds me what the message my feelings are trying to tell me and what my next action should be to feel better. It has been a very effective tool for me and I am offering the cheat sheet as a free bonus for anyone who signs up for my mailing list. article, wikimedia photo

Challenge Your Beliefs

Once you know what the message is, the next step is to challenge the beliefs behind the warning message.

What beliefs allow your negative feeling to be true?

Is it possible that the assumptions behind the feeling are no longer valid?

For example, drivers who often experience road rage believe that the person cutting them off did so as a personal attack to them. If they took time to challenge this assumption or even change the belief to think that the person cutting them off actually had to rush his pregnant wife to the hospital, they would no longer feel angry.

People often live their lives on automatic pilot and act according to how they were raised, how they were conditioned by society and how they’ve always acted. They no longer think about the assumptions behind their reaction and they react as soon as the stimulus is presented. Taking time to reconsider your beliefs may cause you to change how you interpret the situation.

The meaning you give to a situation will decide the feeling you will experience.

Do Something About It

If you decide your beliefs are valid and don’t want to change them, then to feel better, you need to change your behavior. The key is to take action right away. After reading this article, you should be able to feel better in a matter of minutes just by changing your beliefs and/or approach.

The great news is that you’ve probably experienced negative emotions before where you ended up feeling better. Be fully confident in your ability to feel better. You have all the resources you need to do so and following these simple steps and using The Feeling Better Cheat Sheet, will help you turn negative emotions around.

Recognize that feeling negative emotions is not normal. You’ve put up with it because you didn’t know how to make yourself feel better. That is no longer the case.

The fundamental steps to feeling better are:

  1. Clarify the negative feeling that you are experiencing
  2. Acknowledge and appreciate the message that your feeling is sending to you
  3. Challenge the beliefs behind the warning message
  4. If the beliefs are still valid, change your behavior to get the final outcome that you want and take action immediately.

If you get good at this, there is a chance that you will feel pretty good most of the time. For example, if you become flexible enough where you truly believe that every person has the right to their own beliefs and that all beliefs are equally valid, then you will no longer experience anger because no one will ever violate your standards.

If there is no fire, the fire alarm doesn’t ring

Beside flexibility, other qualities you may want to cultivate to prevent the negative emotions are love, generosity, faith, determination, passion, health and joy.

Make the conscious decision to feel better now. article - wikimedia photo


This article was well received and is a reprint from our September 2015 issue.

Sources:, Wikipedia,  photos thank you Wikimedia Commons.

Robert Chen is the founder of Embrace Possibility and author of The Dreams to Reality Fieldbook. He helps people who feel stuck move forward by guiding them to see other possibilities for their lives. He specializes in working with high performers get to the next level. If you’re going through a tough time right now, check out Robert’s article on How to Feel Better Right Away and if you’re having trouble getting what you want out of life, check out How to Always Achieve Your Goals.





Mikaela Florida Wrestler

Some women during wrestling matches have their thinking cap on, their aggression in high gear and their conditioning as an asset. Florida wrestler Mikaela’s game has all of those components aligned with one more major ingredient that she described herself in her interview with FCI Women’s Wrestling.

“My adrenaline was pumping.”

Mikaela is a beautiful, nicely tanned; perfectly muscled young beauty who is a girl of action. article - photo


Some company should create in action comic book character in her name. It most likely would be a best seller.

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.……W. Clement Stone

The nice information site explains, “Adrenaline is a hormone produced by the adrenal glands during high stress or exciting situations. This powerful hormone is part of the human body’s acute stress response system, also called the “fight or flight” response. It works by stimulating the heart rate, contracting blood vessels, and dilating air passages, all of which work to increase blood flow to the muscles and oxygen to the lungs. Additionally, it is used as a medical treatment for some potentially life-threatening conditions including anaphylactic shock. In the US, the medical community largely refers to this hormone as epinephrine, although the two terms may be used interchangeably.”

With Mikaela, during her matches she is never in flight.

She’s always in Fight Mode.

Her matches often end early. Someone couldn’t finish. That happened when she faced industry top stars, Shauna Ryanne and super star Jolene. The contests were so intense that health issues dictated truncation.

Interestingly away from the mats Mikaela is very soft spoken and very unobtrusive. She blends in with the crowd effortlessly and rarely speaks.

Against lesser skilled opponents as a beautiful fresh faced brunette named Sarah found out, Mikaela can be destructive. That was a match that probably should have been called early. Poor Sarah found herself in one excruciating body scissors after another.

Femwin Event

Mikaela one

She completely dominated another Las Vegas beauty named Diana and that match was so one sided that you can guess what happened.

It was called early.

Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.…….Peter Drucker

Oh Mikaela. What a wonderful gift she is to the women’s submission wrestling world. We should not be surprised. It’s in her name. Her name means Gift from God.

The expansive naming site is in the know. “People with this name have a deep inner need for quiet, and a desire to understand and analyze the world they live in, and to learn the deeper truths.

People with this name are excellent at analyzing, understanding, and learning. They tend to be mystics, philosophers, scholars, and teachers. Because they live so much in the mind, they tend to be quiet and introspective, and are usually introverts. When presented with issues, they will see the larger picture. Their solitary thoughtfulness and analysis of people and world events may make them seem aloof, and sometimes even melancholy.”

This seems to describe Mikaela to perfection as she quietly sits in between matches.

According to Mikaela’s profile at the women’s wrestlers list, she hails from Tampa Bay although in an article at Femcompetitor Magazine, she has spent extensive time in Miami as well.

Mikaela, Femwin Wrestler, A Beautiful Quiet Before The Storm

Let’s travel to this Florida paradisiac region.

The city of Tampa, situated on an inlet reaching far into the west coast of Florida, is the economic center of western Florida. The city center is an area of high-rise office blocks, but Tampa also has historic old quarters such as Ybor City and Old Hyde Park. article, wikimedia photo

Tampa is a city in and the county seat of Hillsborough County, Florida, United States. It is located on the west coast of Florida on Tampa Bay, near the Gulf of Mexico, and is part of the Tampa Bay Metropolitan Area. The city had a population of 346,037 in 2011.

Today, Tampa is part of the metropolitan area most commonly referred to as the Tampa Bay Area. For U.S. Census purposes, Tampa is part of the Tampa-St. Petersburg-Clearwater, Florida Metropolitan Statistical Area. The four-county area is composed of roughly 2.9 million residents, making it the second largest metropolitan statistical area (MSA) in the state, and the fourth largest in the Southeastern United States, behind Miami, Washington, D.C. and Atlanta. article, wikimedia photo

Tampa was ranked as the 5th best outdoor city by Forbes in 2008. Tampa also ranks as the fifth most popular American city, based on where people want to live, according to a 2009 Pew Research Center study. A 2004 survey by the NYU newspaper Washington Square News ranked Tampa as a top city for “twenty-somethings.”

Ah, filled with super sexy, tanned twenty somethings. That describes Mikaela.

The enjoyable media source USA Today speaks to the night life in Tampa. “Looking for a place to dance the night away? Tampa has more than a few great options to choose from. Whether you’re looking for your favorite DJ, fabulous light shows, or value for your dollar, there is a Club for you. Through extensive on-site research, 10 Best has found the top hot spots so you don’t waste your vacation time worrying about where to go.

When Ybor City reinvented itself in the 90’s, it primarily became known for its nightlife, particularly its dance clubs. Everyone looking to party in Tampa, from professionals to college kids, went to Ybor on weekend nights. That scene is still going strong, even though the clubs might have changed hands, changed genres, or changed buildings. Currently the hottest ticket in town is the CZAR in the Ritz weekend dance parties.”

Sounds like fun. Almost as much fun as watching Mikaela wrestle.

Having witnessed some of her matches live it can be said that Mikaela gives it everything she’s got. There is nothing left on the mats when it’s over. This thoughtful young woman is someone to continue to follow. She’s immensely talented, in fantastic shape, is street wise, savvy, professional and above all……….

She is a girl of action.

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Sources:, Wikipedia,,, FCI Elite Competitor,,, photos thank you Wikimedia Commons.




Diana Femwin Wrestler

Femwin’s Diana is always a delight to be around.

Diana posing in boxing style with Samantha Grace article, femcompetitor photo

As an FCI writer, I traveled to Las Vegas to report on Femwin’s April 2015 VIP Event. Once there I got a chance to visit with the wrestler and Fem competitor Diana once again.

One thing that was very apparent is that Diana has been working out at the gym. Her body was much stronger than when we met in June of 2014. It enhanced her beauty and she even possessed a higher level of maturity.

We talked for some time and she informed me that she was only going to be able to attend Friday because her personal work schedule and become so busy.

It was our loss.

After reading about the January 2015 passing of the beautiful Russian tennis star Violetta Degtiareva, it made me pause and reflect on life’s openings that present us with endless opportunities for success within limited time frames.

Ms. Degtiareva, a striking blonde beauty, was born in the city of Rostov, near the border with Ukraine in southwestern Russia – was recently ranked in the world as a singles player, with a slightly higher 905 ranking in doubles. The high point of her pro career was reaching the quarterfinals at the ITF-Turnier tournament in Turkey.

Comparisons were made to the former fellow Russian star, Anna Kournikova, whose good looks vaulted her to celebrity status even though she never won a major tennis title. Ms. Degtiareva was able at her young age to secure endorsements that helped to make her a top earner among players on the professional circuit.

As Femwin’s April 24-26 Las Vegas Female Wrestling event approached, my thoughts turned to Diana, a possible rising star on the women’s wrestling scene who participated in two of the most recent Femwin, Las Vegas Events. article, wikimedia  photo

When I met Diana at the June 2014 event, I was smitten by her beauty, charisma, energy and zest for life. Like many entertainers she may go by multiple names thus when we featured in an article we called her Nicole.

Nicole – A New Submission Wrestler With Unexpected Excitement

Bursting onto the scene in two wrestling matches against So. Cal Beauty and journey level wrestler Samantha Grace along with a contest against super star Skylar Rene, like any newer wrestler, Diana has been provided with a nice grace period.

A question can be raised though. Is Diana a rising star or a passing one?

She certainly has the potential which is a label that can be either a compliment or remain an eternal mystery.

Over the years, I’ve learned that a confident person doesn’t concentrate or focus on their weaknesses – they maximize their strengths.……Joyce Meyer

The responsibility to propel Diana understandably is hers but an argument could be made, the women’s fully competitive wrestling industry’s as well. Besides the Canadian company Femwin, very few companies are producing women’s wrestling events or private shoots in America. A competitor can’t grow unless there is an environment that allows that to happen.

What FCI would like to see is Diana taking steps to establish herself on the Social Media and at WB270.

FCI can do its part by promoting Diana’s image and keeping her name in the public eye. Possibly more.

When our writer covered her matches, He found Diana to be very exciting to watch and suspects all that she needs is just a little training to impel her to the next level. article, femcompetitor  photo

Her most recent match against the statuesque beauty Sablique shows progress. She actually had Sablique in a strong head lock but failed to close it out. She still lowers her head and walks into a submission hold. Her energy level was there, she just needs a plan and more tactical training.

The fact that she is planning on attending this year’s April 24-26, 2015 event is a great sign that she wants to compete and with each match her experience grows.

The star of our story lives in Las Vegas.

The majestic jewel of the desert, Las Vegas has been written about and covered in so many ways that here we might focus on it with an eye to the many strengths of Diana.

Diana is a beautiful woman with whom you would love to sit down and share an elegant meal. It would be an evening that you would never forget. At night during the June 2015 event, our group had an exceptional experience dining at Ballys.

One of the restaurants that caught my eye was Alize which provides the ultimate French dining experience. Let’s take a tour before we dine.

Restaurant Alizé is what memories are made of.

Located on the 56th floor of the exquisite Palms Casino & Resort, the establishment offers a breath taking view of Sin City.

Ah, the waiter has arrived. Fortunately he is speaking in English.

“Established by Chef André Rochat, who began his formal culinary training in France at the age of 14, Alizé’s award-winning menus combine Chef André’s innovative French tradition with Chef Mark Purdy’s acclaimed flair and style.

Notably ranked as one of the 5 highest restaurants in North America, Las Vegas’ Michelin-starred Alizé Restaurant is more than just a pretty face with a knockout view.

Granted, being on the 56th floor of the decadent Palms Casino & Resort in Las Vegas does allow for the city’s most breathtaking view of the Las Vegas Strip.

But even Alizé’s view is surpassed by its consistently phenomenal French cuisine and world-renowned wine cellar and cognac collection. Our Chefs have sourced the finest American ingredients and attend to every culinary detail with fundamental French techniques.  Established by Chef André Rochat, who began his formal culinary training in France at the age of 14, Alizé’s award-winning menus combine Chef André’s innovative French tradition with Chef Mark Purdy’s acclaimed flair and style.

It is our intention, with every item served and every interaction made, to leave our guests feeling better than they did before.  We carefully orchestrate the details of each experience with a team that is committed to our guest’s happiness; it is an experience of exceptional quality and comfortable style.”

After that, I decided to take a peek at the menu. My…..Oh….My.

In American, the meaning of the name Diana is: Luminous, perfect.

So fitting wouldn’t you agree?

The delicately perfect naming site adds, “People with this name have a deep inner desire to inspire others in a higher cause, and to share their own strongly held views on spiritual matters. They tend to be quiet, cooperative, considerate, sympathetic to others, adaptable, balanced and sometimes shy.

They are trustworthy, respecting the confidences of others, and make excellent diplomats, mediators and partners. They are often very intuitive. They like detail and order, and often find change worrisome. They may sometimes feel insecure or restless.”

No wonder I like Diana so much! article, femcompetitor  photo

As an industry, can we provide beautiful women like Diana with more opportunities to wrestle? We sure hope so. Life is short and worth every effort.

“Yesterday when I was young….The taste of life was sweet as rain upon my tongue.” American super star singer, Roy Clark

I think back to Anna Kournikova who as a teen I loved to watch during the 1990s. So much was expected of her because she truly was a great talent yet she could never break through and win a Grand Slam. I remember the looks of exasperation on her face when things began to crumble during a match.

Give her this.

She made a lot of money. Tons. Somehow though I sense if you could maneuver your way into the deep recesses of her mind, something important is missing and a prickle that in terms of maximizing who she was capable of becoming as a tennis player; life passed her by.

Will we ever expand as an industry so that all of these women who want to wrestle but can’t find any compensated opportunities don’t go away? There are some good signs that we will. New companies are springing up.

Wonderful competitors like Diana show that her progress is a collective responsibility.

Will she remain a fantasy wrestler, always fodder for established warriors like Skylar Rene or rising stars like Sablique?

This writer doesn’t think so. She’s on her way to sustained Victory Street and some of us are very determined to open the passenger door and drive her there.

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Sources:, Wikipedia,,, FCI Elite Competitor,, photos thank you Wikimedia Commons.

The Power Of Happiness

Happiness is worth finding and sustaining.

Free of responsibility and life’s serious issues, childhood can be a magical, carefree place where real happiness abounds.

Once we hit our teens, depending upon the high school experience, that happiness can expand into a deeper meaning where you realize you are only young once and the enjoyment of high school especially with friends you knew since childhood and perhaps falling in love for the first time, are something to never be repeated. article, Wikimedia photo

For many, pure, unadulterated happiness ends when the pressures of college achievement, job expectations and marriage commitment frame reality. Make the wrong decision in any of those areas and future happiness can become as elusive as a beautiful butterfly in flight on a breezy day.

I had a friend once privately express to me once that he had a great childhood, so-so high school, great early college years and even with great disappointments he was still happy because he knew those set backs were temporary.

Once he became an adult and within his circle felt great pressure to marry and he married the wrong person, within six months he sensed he would never be truly happy again. There was no honorable escape and now both extended families were involved, he had a job he hated and a child on the way.

In all the time that I knew him afterwards, before life sent our trains in very different directions, he was clearly never happy again.

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.………..Mahatma Gandhi


What about you? Are you happy?

It’s both a tough and easy question to answer right? I mean, you either are or you aren’t.

It can be a little more complex question to answer when your tentacles are in the world of the adults. We then can become categorically happy. We have a fantastic job, enjoy great friends, wish we were married to someone else but love our children deeply. We are part of a group or faith and that brings moderate life reassurance as well.

Being fulfilled in three out of four categories can still make us have a sense of strong happiness. article - wikimedia  photo

Once the categories of discontent number around 50 percent, I think it’s then that we walk under an umbrella to protect us against the gathering storm clouds above.

Heaven forbid if it drops below 50 percent and now you are unhappy in say three of the five categories spoken in the example above, now strong unhappiness can begin to seep in. The problem in the world of the adults is that so often it can feel permanent in that change can bring upon massive consequences to you, your mate or your children.

What can we do if we feel stuck? How can we find happiness again?

One of my favorite motivational speakers, Mr. Robert Chen is the founder of Embrace Possibility and author of The Dreams to Reality Fieldbook. He helps people who feel stuck move forward by guiding them to see other possibilities for their lives.

The advice and categorical approaches to breaking down and defining happiness are endless. For our purposes here, let’s focus on just three thoughts that stood out to me by Mr. Chen.

Build Great Relationships

Research and experience show that connecting with others and building and keeping strong bonds make people happy. Our sense of belonging is a key indicator of our happiness. We all want to belong to a group and our happiness correlates with our status within that group. Think about your happiness level the last time you got accepted to a group you really wanted to join (your company, a sports team, a certain club).

In this age of social media, it’s easy to have a lot of “friends” and “connections”. As with all things, quality is more important than quantity. A good way to test quality is to make a list of people you feel comfortable calling at 3 o’clock in the morning knowing they’ll be genuinely interested in helping you out.

The more names you have on that list the better. If you’re not sure whether a friend of yours makes that list, you can always test your results by calling them at 3 am. Don’t be surprised if your list gets shorter after you explain to them you were only “testing” them.


Happiness is like a kiss. You must share it to enjoy it.…..Bernard Meltzer


Live with Meaning

Many people see life as a zero-sum game and they live life accordingly. They see someone else’s fortune and luck as taking away from their own fortune and luck. Not surprisingly, people who feel this way are suspicious and selfish. They also tend to be less happy even if they are already well-off.

Most wealthy and successful people become heavily involved with philanthropy in the second half of their lives. They give their time and money for the greater good of others. The desire for meaning is what makes people go through beatings and arrests as activists. Volunteers that give up paid opportunities are no less noble. No matter the group, they all do it to benefit someone other than themselves.

One word of caution on being selfless. Don’t overdo it. When you sacrifice yourself, you burden those who care about you because not only will they worry, they will eventually be forced to care for you.


“If you want someone to be happy, tell them to win because the pursuit of winning, success, mastery and achievement for its own sake makes people happy.

This is why you have happy workaholics. As long as they keep moving up, they’ll put up with almost anything.”

Thanks Robert.

I agree whole heartedly with what Robert Chen said especially in terms of giving back to others and trying to achieve very important goals.

Since writing for Female Competition International, my happiness meter has shot through the roof, in part because of what we are trying to accomplishment.

In this cultural shift, the female competitors of the future who will be highly sought after are the ones who can build a following on the Social Media and post our articles that feature them. We in turn take their traffic and sell it to the corporations as we are doing as of this writing.

If we win, then the freestyle girls who graduate from the Women’s Wrestling College Association (WCWA) and our beloved female submission wrestlers in the not too distant future will not have to take their clothes off or get beat up in an MMA cage to make good money wrestling. article - photo

How can you not feel good about that?

Happiness is a fascinating subject because achieving and defining it can vary as much as the number of people that you speak with. Here we didn’t delve into faith in God, but for many, that is critical to finding happiness.

This is a subject we will share with you again and again. But for now……..

We’re happy to let this marinate.

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Sources:, Wikipedia,,, FCI Elite Competitor,, photos thank you Wikimedia Commons.








AEO $10,000 Contest!

How would you like to win $10,000?

Great! We thought so.

You probably already know and love them and now FCI is reminding you why there are at least 10,000 reasons to love them even more.

American Eagle Outfitters is a dynamic, energetic and stylish American clothing and accessories retailer, headquartered in the Southside Works Neighborhood of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. article, AEO photo

Some of the brand’s more popular products are low-rise jeans, polo shirts, graphic T-shirts, henley shirts, boxers and briefs, outerwear, and swimwear.

Here is what they would like to say to you, a young, exciting, well-traveled female sports group.

This is reprinted from their March 5, 2015 press release.

American Eagle Outfitters and Aerie announce the “Ultimate Road Trip” sweepstakes in stores nationwide and online from Saturday, March 7 through Wednesday, March 18, 2015. Entrants have the opportunity to win a grand prize of a restored Volkswagen Westfalia valued at approximately $25,000 and $10,000 in cash to create their own ultimate road trip experience. The sweepstakes also includes a text-to-enter instant-win game wherein participants have the opportunity to win American Eagle Outfitters shorts and Aerie swim suits. All entrants will be offered a tiered coupon for use in-store or online of $10 off a purchase of $40 or $20 off a purchase of $75 or more, only once per brand and cannot be combined with any other offer. article, AEO photo

While in the fitting room trying on the latest spring styles of American Eagle Outfitters shorts and Aerie swim suits, or shopping on or, shoppers can enter to instantly win by texting in to American Eagle Outfitters or Aerie. Aerie Swim is now available in over 750 American Eagle Outfitters stores. Shoppers are also invited to share their experience with @americaneagle and @aerie by uploading photos using the hashtags #AEOShorts and #AerieSwim.

“We’re thrilled to bring our spring road trip campaign to life with this chance to instantly win a vintage Volkswagen Westfalia,” commented Michael Leedy, American Eagle Outfitters Chief Marketing Officer. “We love to create engaging and memorable experiences for our American Eagle Outfitters and Aerie customers.”

The “Ultimate Road Trip” sweepstakes begins at 12:01am ET on Saturday, March 7, 2015 and ends at 11:59pm ET on Wednesday, March 18, 2015. The contest is open to all legal residents of the 50 states and Canada. All participants must be 18 or older, subject to official rules available at

About American Eagle Outfitters, Inc. article, AEO photo

American Eagle Outfitters, Inc. (AEO) is a leading global specialty retailer offering high-quality, on-trend clothing, accessories and personal care products at affordable prices under its American Eagle Outfitters® and Aerie® brands. The company operates more than 1,000 stores in the United States, Canada, Mexico, China, Hong Kong and the United Kingdom, and ships to 81 countries worldwide through its websites. American Eagle Outfitters and Aerie merchandise also is available at 101 international stores operated by licensees in 16 countries. For more information, please visit

About Aerie article, AEO photo
Aerie is bras, undies and more for every girl. Designed in sizes 30A to 40DD, Aerie is committed to making bras for girls of all sizes feel good about themselves, inside and out. The real you is sexy.™ No supermodels. No retouching. #AerieREAL. For more information, please visit


In a trade known for promoting unrealistic airbrushed images, Aerie is taking a position as an industry leader for change by becoming a key sponsor of the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA).

Aerie,the intimate apparel line, has partnered with NEDA as the lead sponsor of the non-profit’s ongoing national walks awareness program, NEDA Walk. Save a Life, which raises funds for advocacy and educational programs, spreads awareness about the seriousness of eating disorders and provides support for the local community. NEDA holds more than 65 walks each year in cities across the nation.

Aerie has already made a corporate commitment to body-positivity in its advertising and marketing materials by pledging to no longer retouch models in any way. The brand recently celebrated the one-year anniversary of its #aerieREAL campaign.

“We applaud Aerie for taking the lead in healthy body image through its #aerieREAL and #LoveYourRealSelfie campaigns,” commented Lynn Grefe, president and CEO of NEDA. “This can be a significant game changer for the fashion and advertising industries. We know that over-the-top ads promoting extreme thinness and non-stop diet promises send a message to teens and young adults suggesting that they are not good enough –  translation: not thin enough –  and sadly fuels the fire of low self-esteem. Research has shown that low self- esteem is a serious precursor to unhealthy eating behaviors and eating disorders.”

“Aerie has already shown a commitment to change,” she continued, “with ad campaigns that highlight a range of body types. Their approach was not only socially responsible, but also resonated with the public and was profitable. We hope others will learn by their great example.”

“We’re thrilled to be the first national retailer to support the National Eating Disorders Association,” said Jennifer Foyle, chief merchandising officer of the Aerie brand. “This partnership is a perfect fit for our brand. We look forward to joining thousands of young women in supporting NEDA at walks across the country and to sharing resources and information with our customers to help reduce the stigma often associated with eating disorders.”

The Facts …

In the U.S., 20 million women and 10 million men suffer from a clinically significant eating disorder at some time in their life – including anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa and binge eating disorder – with anorexia having highest fatality rate of any mental illness.

Of American elementary school girls who read magazines, 69 percent say that the pictures influence their concept of the ideal body shape and 47 percent say the pictures make them want to lose weight.

It is estimated that, in the U.S., 19 percent of adults and three percent of children are on a diet on any given day. Forty-two percent of first-through-third-grade girls want to be thinner and 81 percent of 10-year-olds are afraid of being fat. More than half of teenage girls and nearly one-third of teenage boys use unhealthy weight control behaviors.

Even among clearly non-overweight girls, over one-third report dieting.

Dieting causes such side effects as stress, anxiety, depression, irritability and low self-esteem—and dieters often gain back the weight they lose. Thirty-five percent of “normal dieters” progress to pathological dieting. Of those, 20 to 25 percent progress to partial or full-syndrome eating disorders.

About the National Eating Disorders Association

The National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA), headquartered in New York City, is the leading U.S. non-profit organization supporting individuals and families affected by eating disorders. NEDA serves as a catalyst for prevention, cures and access to quality care. Each year, NEDA helps millions of people across the country find information and appropriate treatment resources through its toll-free, live helpline, its many outreach programs and website. NEDA advocates for advancements in the field and envisions a world without eating disorders. For more information, visit  

For Treatment Referrals, Visit
Or Contact NEDA’s Live Helpline:  800-931-2237

Female Competition International is proud to continue to bring to the attention of our large female sports audience, not only the efforts of corporations that empower women but also their commitment to improve and change the world as well…….with style.

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Travel Open Hearted

Traveling to new places has a way of changing us if we open up our minds and hearts and allow it to. article, Wikimedia photo

As a female wrestler, do you find that when you travel, you often focus on the itinerary rather the important lessons you will learn along the way? So often the first step to change, even minor ones is to recognize behavior or thinking that should be altered.

Wherever you go, go with all your heart.…..Confucius

Frequently when I have covered female wrestling events for Female Competition International (FCI), afterwards I will interview the competitor and ask the where and what regarding her travel experience. Where did she go and what did she like about the place visited. Those are both very good questions but what I have too often left out and will be sure to include in future interviews is the question asking what life lesson did they learn from the trip?

Based upon my own experiences as a youth when my parents took me by car across the United States, I should know better. One of the reasons I prefer traveling by car as opposed to by plane, even knowing that it consumes far more time, is the invaluable experience of watching how mile by mile, town by town and person by person the landscape and country changes right before your eyes.

It’s so powerful and penetrating that it’s hard to put into words.

It was as though regions had personalities and similar to an ant hill, the next major city was like approaching the Queen Bee’s hive. You previously traveled for hours seeing rolling hills, mystical deserts and green irrigated farms but the moment you read the sign, Big City 30 miles; it was as though you could feel that city’s power and effect. Suddenly there were more cars and more energy. Before you know it, in the distance like centurions thrusting towards the sky, you could see the skyscrapers. Partner that with some great driving music and you have one dynamic memory.

To this day I still remember cities that I saw for the very first time based upon the song I was listening to, even though it was decades ago. The first time I traveled past Sacramento’s skyline heading towards the San Francisco Bay Area, Neil Young’s Heart of Gold really moved me.

When I approached Portland’s skyline at no more than twelve, Donovan’s Mellow Yellow was thumping. When I was leaving Portland as a young adult in my twenties, searching for love, Laura Branigan’s Solitaire sent electricity through me.

Please allow me one more. article, Wikimedia photo

As an adult when traveling through Japan with friends and family they wanted me to see as much of Japan as possible but after a while, I began to think once you’ve seen ten temples and five lakes, how many more do you need to see? I want to have fun so instead of going on the go everywhere and get extremely tired tour, I said the heck with that and used my First Class JAL pass and traveled to Tokyo over and over and over and over by Bullet Train!

With most American cities I would say 30 miles out is about the distance you can feel the tentacles of the major metropolis approached beckoning you. Tokyo is different. Within 50 miles everything started to change and like the most beautiful woman you have ever seen and began to fall in love with, her magic begins to engulf from a great distance. article, Wikimedia photo

Tokyo is an incredible, powerful, energetic and engulfing Mega City.

I would say that I sense most female wrestlers have already figured this out but the back of my mind tells me that this is a generational mindset. Since most modern day travelers fly, I can’t say enough how taking a road trip is an entirely different experience.

Ralph Waldo Emerson, an American essayist, lecturer, and poet, who led the Transcendentalist movement of the mid-19th century once stated, Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not.

As Fem Competitors probably already know, when you travel the only baggage you should bring are the ones made of fabric that you carry in your hand, over your shoulder or roll along. The other kind inside of our heads, we should leave at home. article, Wikimedia photo

Even if temporary, travel is a way of starting out with a clean slate.

One of my favorite motivational speakers Mr. Robert Chen took two months off and traveled the world. What life lessons did he learn? Many. He shares one here.

“Having returned from my trip, I realized that I spend a lot of time in the present thinking about what I’m planning to do tomorrow or what I did in the past. I rarely get to enjoy what’s happening in the present. Knowing that, I’ve tried to focus more on the present through meditation. I now meditate 10 minutes every day and I notice the difference. I am more self-aware and attuned to my thoughts.

Living in the present doesn’t mean you shouldn’t plan or reflect on your past. Both of these activities are very important. Just make sure that you’re consciously carving out time to do it so it becomes an activity in the present. What you don’t want is to drift into the past or future when you really should be living your life in the present.”

Fem Competitors can I make a suggestion?

Please take a moment and reflect back on your travels and remind yourself of some of the most important life lessons learned and how you can once again apply them in the present.

Certainly, travel is more than the seeing of sights; it is a change that goes on, deep and permanent, in the ideas of living.…….Mary Ritter Beard

We can all learn from great minds around the world. When it comes to travel Cesare Pavese, an Italian poet, novelist, literary critic and translator, widely considered among the major authors of the 20th century in his home country wisely expressed, “If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness and fears.

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BofA Female Friendly

Bank of America continues to look for ways to empower women and advance leadership roles.

If you have been in the work force for years at the present time are you prospering or struggling financially? It may come as a surprise but much of your happiness or satisfaction with your present economic station depends upon whether you had good mentors to guide you in the early stages of your financial development.

A mentor is a wise, trusted and experienced teacher that provides effective guidance. For a mentor to truly be effective, they must possess all three of those key characteristics. article - Wikimedia photo

In terms of social responsibility, one of the goals of Bank of America is a continued commitment to advancing women leaders and for those of you women reading this article in our competitive wrestling community, that could mean you.

So that Female Competition International (FCI) communicates their ideas as accurately as possible, we have visited their websites at and

One of their goals is explained very simply and clearly. “Through strategic partnerships, investments, and programs, we’re connecting women to the human, social, and financial capital resources they need to maximize their potential. Our efforts are empowering women to enrich their lives, as well as those of their families and communities, and helping create stronger economies worldwide.”

By investing in and empowering women inside and outside the company, Bank of America is creating strong leaders who are contributing to the growth of local economies.

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“Our signature initiative, the Global Ambassadors Program, developed in conjunction with Vital Voices Global Partnership and launched in 2012, connects women leaders from emerging countries with senior executives from a range of business sectors, including Bank of America, for one-on-one mentoring,” says Candace Browning, head of Global Research at BofA Merrill Lynch. The program helps women overcome personal, business, civic and other barriers to economic empowerment. “Through mentoring forums held in Haiti, South Africa, India, Singapore, and Brazil, we’ve convened hundreds of women to discuss how women’s leadership can help address economic issues facing their countries,” Browning adds.

“These efforts expand upon our numerous programs aimed at connecting women — both our women clients and women within Bank of America to the tools needed for economic success,” Browning notes.

These include:

  • Philanthropic investments and leadership development programs.
  • Socially Innovative Investing, which includes the recently launched (proprietary) investment strategies for clients focused on women’s and girls’ equality.
  • The Women and Wealth program, which is focused on delivering solutions that meet the unique wealth management needs of women.
  • Socially responsible private equity investments for clients, focused on women business owners.
  • The bank’s Supplier Diversity and Development Program, which ensures that the bank seeks products and services from diverse businesses across the organization, including women-owned businesses.
  • Line of business councils, engagement forums, and an enterprise group focused on women’s professional development: Leadership, Education, Advocacy and Development (LEAD) for Women, provide women at the company with leadership opportunities and skills development.

For more information, go to Bank of America’s Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) website or U.S. Trust’s women’s website.

An example to follow can be gleaned from the December 10, 2012 article by Julie Fasone Holder written for the Huffington Post.

According to Ms. Holder at her site, she is the CEO and Founder of JFH Insights, Management Advising and a Board Member of Directors at Eastman Chemical Co.

In the article she explains, “In my position as founder and principle of my consulting firm, JFH Insights, and previously as Senior Vice President of Marketing, Sales and Corporate Reputation at the Dow Chemical Company, I understand firsthand the sacrifices women must often make to accomplish what we set out to do.

However, what stands at the center of ensuring that more women reach the highest echelons of leadership in the workplace is one simple act: mentorship. Having strong leaders who helped guide and shape my career has been integral in getting me to where I am today, and it made me realize early on that women can and should strive for the top. While at Dow, I was a founder of the Women’s Innovation Network (WIN), a group of men and women focused on maximizing the professional contributions women make at the company. As a successful business leader, I consider it a top priority and responsibility to mentor the next generation of female leaders.”

Bank of America’s Global Ambassadors Program is founded on the importance and effectiveness of mentorship for businesswomen in the developing world. Approximately one billion women have the potential to enter the global workforce in the next decade, but only if given the opportunity to do so. article

Bank of America is committed to mentoring emerging women business leaders because mentoring has been proven to produce significant results for both the mentor and the mentee. Businesswomen often face exclusion from networks and conversations that can open the door to career development and promotions. By connecting regularly with women in leadership positions, emerging women leaders can further their careers and contribute to their local communities and economies.

Finally a perfect example of this plan in motion can be seen here. According to The World Bank, more than 70 million women have joined the workforce in Latin America and the Caribbean region in the last 20 years, and female income has helped alleviate extreme poverty in the region by 30 percent, demonstrating that gender equality is crucial to economic growth. However, there is still substantial room for improvement.

At FCI our hope is to continue to provide our readers in the international female wrestling community with ideas from corporations and female leaders around the globe on avenues that can improve their economic development.

The great benefit of becoming involved in mentor programs is that you don’t have to re-invent the wheel and it allows you to have an ear to helpful conversations and broad ideas that can improve your economic life that previously may have been closed to women.

If FCI is successful, the fully competitive women’s wrestling industry, primarily the freestyle and submission wrestling world is undergoing a cultural shift where all dignified women’s wrestling will co-operate and partner with one another to create an ideal market for corporations to advertise to.

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